Work With Rich
Meet Rich Ouano
I'm Rich Ouano, founder of Secure Is Sexy™ and author of Date Zero™.
For 35 years, I struggled with dating anxiety. I overthought text messages, looked for reassurance, worried about losing someone's interest, and sometimes confused attention with genuine connection.
I know what it's like to want a relationship so badly that you start losing yourself in the process.
It took me years to recognize my patterns, take responsibility for my choices, and learn how to approach dating and relationships from a place of emotional security.
That's why I created Secure Is Sexy™.
My mission is to help people recognize the patterns that keep them stuck and start making healthier, more secure choices in their relationships.
I'm not a therapist or psychologist. I'm someone who lived through these struggles and learned that meaningful change is possible.
I believe emotional security isn't something you either have or don't have. It's something you develop through awareness, ownership, practice, and better choices.
You don't arrive. You become.
What We Can Talk About
Dating anxiety and overthinking
Noticing the worry loops that take over early dating, and finding calmer ways to respond.
Communication and texting patterns
Looking at how you reach out, how you wait, and what your messages are really trying to say.
Reassurance-seeking and emotional dependence
Understanding why you look to someone else to feel okay, and building steadiness of your own.
Recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns
Spotting the choices and dynamics that keep repeating, so you can see them sooner.
Boundaries, reciprocity, and consistency
Talking through what balanced effort looks like, and how to stand by what matters to you.
Developing more emotionally secure choices
Turning awareness into small, practical steps you can take in your next conversation or date.
Private Session Options
Single Session
$250
One private 60-minute session.
Four-Session Package
$500
Four private 45-minute sessions.
All sessions are one-on-one Messenger audio conversations only.
What to Expect
These are practical conversations grounded in lived experience.
They are not psychotherapy, diagnosis, or licensed mental health care.
Rich is not a therapist, psychologist, or counselor.
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Payment
Secure online booking and payment will be available when sessions officially open. All payments will be handled through a secure payment provider.